Brides, It's YOUR Day!

(photo courtesy of Don Ptashne)

Getting married is an inordinately massive event that demands, often times, overwhelming amounts of time and energy. For most, it is a joyous milestone dreamed about for many years in advance. Thus, it goes without saying that brides are focused on their weddings ... down to the minor details. With that said, this goes out to all brides everywhere: IT'S YOUR DAY!

Your wedding is about the loving relationship you and your fiance have built together and the promising new life you will soon begin. Just because the two of you wish to fulfill the dreams that YOU have built and refuse to compromise what should be one of the happiest days of your life does not mean you are selfish, obnoxious or a Bridezilla.

More specifically, do not allow your bridesmaids to place the above labels on you. Here are a few scenarios to brace yourself for:

The bridesmaids don't like the dresses you've chosen.
The bridesmaids hate the color scheme you've decided to have.
One or some of your bridesmaids have huge tattoos on their arms and refuse to temporarily cover them because "they don't want to have to change who they are."
According to your bridesmaids, you're being too extravagant ... too showy ... too vain.

Your bridesmaids agree to participate in your wedding, but fail to show up for important fittings and/or planning appointments.

One or more of your bridesmaids threaten to drop out of the wedding unless they get what they want.

If by chance you come across any of this, ask the culprits to see themselves out of your wedding with haste. You don't need the stress. You don't deserve the headache. When/if your bridesmaid gets married, she can pick HER styles and colors. When/if your bridesmaid walks down the aisle in a silk Vera Wang gown, she can proudly display HER skull & crossbones tattoo. It's an honor to be asked to participate in a friend or family member's wedding and if you accept you should remain gracious and helpful, not confrontational or spoiled. If any of your bridesmaids feel they can't deal, ask them to kindly step aside.

Brides, it's YOUR day! Don't allow anything or anyone to steal your joy.
(stepping down from soapbox)

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