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Ask Rashana: Who Decides What The Flower Girls Wear?

Dear Rashana,
I have an issue I really need your help with.  We're thrilled to be having my fiance's nieces as flower girls in our wedding.  However, their parents would rather purchase their dresses from a department store as opposed to a bridal salon.  I'm concerned because I had ideas in mind for the girls already (which would coordinate with what the bridesmaids and I are wearing) and I doubt this can be achieved at a random department store.  Is there anything I can do without offending the family?  HELP!!
- Concerned Bride
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Dear Concerned Bride,
It is customary for the bride to select all attire for her attendants (bridesmaids, flower girls, etc).  However, this can get sticky in the case of child attendants if the bride hasn't agreed to pay for their ensemble.  Perhaps you should proactively choose a few dresses for your flower girls and take photos to their parents for review.  Just be sure to pick out options within varying price ranges (just in case the decision to purchase at a department store vs. a bridal salon is budget focused).  If you do this, they may agree to purchase whatever you've chosen, since you're the bride and might want to be sensitive to you having already done the "shopping."  If not, your only recourse could be agreeing to pay for the dresses yourself so that the choices are 100% yours (which is what I had to do for 2 out of my 4 flower girls when I got married 6 years ago).

To get you started, here are a few gorgeous styles by Annie Girl for the little ladies:

Good Luck!  I hope everything works out.

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by Rashana Anderson
Founder & Managing Director, THE BRIDAL PARTY


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