With each passing day, our world becomes more and more focused on digital/virtual communication. Whether we like it or not, portals like Facebook, Twitter and YouTube are likely permanent fixtures within our society. But like everything else, etiquette is an important part of it ... thus "do's and don'ts" are fast emerging for weddings, even specifically for wedding guests.
WeddingChannel.com released an interesting article on this subject recently that I really enjoyed and wanted to share. So, if you're attending a loved one's nuptials this year, be sure to read.
You're close with the bride and groom, so it's probably just fine if you simply text your RSVP, right? And you're so thrilled to be invited that you just can't wait to spread the word to everyone! Sound OK? Think again.
Just because you're usually glued to Facebook and Twitter, doesn't mean you should use them to announce your friend's upcoming nuptials. In most circumstances, wedding etiquette is a little more old-fashioned. That means, mailing the RSVP card and containing your excitement solely to conversations with other wedding guests. Read on to find out our top 5 wedding guest digital faux pas -- and make sure you don't commit these etiquette crimes yourself.- - - - - - - - - -
DON'T GIVE A WEDDING DAY PLAY-BY-PLAY
"Just checked into John and Jane's wedding." "Bride walking down the aisle now." It may be hard to resist, but sharing minute-by-minute details about someone else's wedding on Facebook, Twitter or foursquare is not okay. Let the bride check-in to her own wedding if she wants. And when it comes to the engagement -- make sure you ask the bride whether the happy news is public yet -- she might've only told a few friends so far and probably won't appreciate you sharing her engagement news on Facebook instead of her.
DON'T BE THE PAPARAZZI
Just because you post what you eat every day on Flickr, doesn't mean the bride wants her bachelorette party, bridal shower and wedding seen by the world. According to a WeddingChannel.com poll, 40% of brides said posting photos online without permission or even a heads-up was their biggest digital wedding gripe. So ask before posting wedding-related photos and videos, and don't even think about posting unflattering wedding pictures and risque bachelorette party videos.
DON'T RSVP VIA TWEET
Unless the bride said "RSVP on Twitter," chances are she wants you to RSVP via mail. Not to mention, posting on your friend's Facebook wall may trigger drama. Who knows who the bride didn't invite!
DON'T COMPLAIN ONLINE
Bride's being a bridezilla? Hate your bridesmaid dress? If you don't have anything nice to say, don't post it online-because chances are it will spread like viral fire, and you don't want the bride to find out. Or do you?
DON'T FORGET THE GIFT
In this digital age, it doesn't take that much effort to go online and buy a gift—especially when you can easily find a couple's registry online.
by Rashana Anderson
Founder & Managing Director, THE BRIDAL PARTY